Nine Lives - Part II: The Readers Digest

Let me tell you plainly that I was a happy child. Imagination was my good friend, and it ran free like wild horses. We lived in the mountains on an acre property with blue skies, trees and fresh air. It was wonderful. I would run around barefoot pretending to be a Native American and stay outside for hours playing by myself or with my little sister. When I was indoors, I would entertain myself in various ways through drawing, singing or putting on plays for anyone who would watch, including Barbie and Ken, I might add.  

My mom was an excellent mother and she always had our best interests in mind. My dad worked in L.A. and was gone most of the week, so during weekdays, things were pretty carefree around the house. He was very particular about things and enforced many rules at home that everyone was to abide by, including my mother. Unlike the average American family, we weren't allowed to watch TV or listen to popular music. It was out of the question to ever eat something like a donut or bacon. Spending the night at a friends house was O-U-T, and we could never leave toys out of our rooms or they would be thrown away. So when he came home from work, we made sure that everything was as perfect as possible. None of us wanted to upset him.

In third grade I was taken out of public school and my sister and I began homeschooling. This was a huge adjustment for me initially, but I adapted and although I missed my friends, I developed a huge passion for learning. On weekends, fights were frequent between my parents. During the bad ones, I would take my sister into the back of the house, huddle in the corner with her and ask God to stop the fighting. 
Then one day, when I was twelve and my sister was seven, my mom had simply had enough. I remember the morning she came in told us we were leaving as she packed our clothes. I started to cry and all I could think of was "What if daddy catches us? We will all be in big trouble." My mom knew this. She was scared too. Before I knew it, my parents were getting a divorce. I felt like the floor had been removed from underneath me, and there was nothing I could do to stop it. My sister and I went from having almost no contact with the outside world, to being thrust into a new school, in a busy new town, with two parents who were hurt and very angry with each other.

Adolescence is already hard enough for a "normal" person and I was a seventh grader who didn't know what any "popular" anything was. My first year interacting with peers was filled with embarrassing moments. I quickly began to learn about hard knocks, the pain of gossip and what it meant to "fit in." School however, was the least of my problems. 

As with many divorces, my life was split between parents half and half. On my dad's time I wasn't allowed to participate in sports or after school programs as he saw no use for them. Most coaches were not happy or understanding about having a player who showed up only fifty percent of the time. Besides being strict, he was exceptionally protective. On good days, we were usually kept locked indoors in the same room with him while he read The Readers Digest or the Bible, or we stayed locked outside in the backyard to do yard work. My sister and I did our best to be good daughters, and we didn't complain for fear of the consequences. Breakfast was my favorite time of the day with him because we would just sit there quietly, sipping coffee. 

With my mom no longer around to protect us from my dads temper tantrums, I did my best to shelter my sister from the brunt of it. My dad was angry that my mom had left him, and on the bad days, I spent countless hours fighting, crying, and being made to memorize letters that he had written for my mom. He wanted her to know what a terrible person she was for leaving him and he felt she would hear it better if it was coming from me. We "practiced" for hours each week. Of course when I went back to my moms I didn't have the heart to tell her all the things he wanted me to. It was hard enough hearing her sobs through the bedroom door on a regular basis. 

By age fifteen, I was running away from home. Literally. Running. The first time, I sprinted as fast as I could to my nearest friend about a mile away. My heart might have exploded right out of my chest, had she not been home. Soon after I began to slit my wrists with sharp objects. Then, with plenty of prescription drugs in the medicine cabinet it all seemed so easy really. I thought I would just pop a handful of Codine and drift off to sleep. 
I don't remember much of that evening, but I know that school counselors almost rushed me to the emergency room when my dad intercepted, and against everyone's better judgement, decided to take me home and pray for me. The prayers must have been pretty strong that evening because I made it through the night. With the amount of pills I had in me, it is a miracle that I lived through it. 

It is said that "A gem cannot be polished without much friction, nor man perfected without trials." This I know to be true. My early teen years had been nothing but friction, yet for a reason unbeknownst to me, I had been given another chance. I would soon learn that trials are a blessing in disguise and each day is a fresh start, filled with choices to be made. At sixteen I had been given a new opportunity for choosing life and there were many more lessons yet to learn... 

Nine Lives - Part I: The First Wound

I have been asked many times why I am so happy all the time. Most people follow up that thought with "she must of had a pretty easy and wonderful life." Self confidence, I'm told, "oozes" out of me. Well folks, I'm here to tell you that I traveled down the long road to self confidence. My life has been a story of challenges, many mistakes and learning the "hard way." I've been poor--not knowing where my next meal would come from, a millionaire, crazy, sane, depressed, passionate, married, divorced, suicidal and inspired by life. In a very real sense, I have lived nine lives. Life for me has been anything but "easy" --that is until I discovered how to create a life that is truly wonderful. How did I solve this conundrum you ask? As I'm sure you know, perspective is everything, so before I tell you how I discovered self love, acceptance and forgiveness, I will tell you a more personal story by rewinding briefly back to my childhood, where I initially discovered tears, self doubt, and fear. 

As a six year old, I didn't know any better when I gave my friend a ticket to the school play. I had three tickets and she didn't have any, so it only made sense to give her one. When I got home from school that day, my mother asked in a stern voice, where the other ticket was. For some reason my response was "It must of gotten lost" to then "Maybe Nicki stole it." My mother's tone was a clear indicator that I was in trouble for giving the ticket away, and I thought that just maybe I wouldn't be in as much trouble if I said that she had taken it. So I stuck with my story. The truth came out as it always does, and worse than giving away the ticket, I had told a lie.
Now, dishonesty is something to be addressed, especially at a young age, as it has a plethora of negative consequences. I might have done very well as a six year old had this been explained to me with words. However, that was not how I learned about honesty. As soon as my dad found out that I had told a lie, he decided to beat the truth into me. My mom stood there frozen as she watched it all unfold. At the end of this event and to make his final point, he put his hands around my neck and squeezed as he shook me yelling, "You will never tell a lie again, do you understand me?" 

Oh, I understood alright. I understood that I must be a terrible person to deserve such punishment, I must not be worthy of love, and I definitely understood that I was scared to death of my dad. From that point forward I was always careful around him. The sad truth was that although I had learned about the consequences of telling a falsity, I had begun to believe a bigger lie-- a lie about myself: that I needed to earn love by being perfect and that my life was not as valuable as the people around me. 
The insecurity of not being good enough, would fester through my teens and into early adulthood. Of course, pleasing everybody is impossible, and trying to do so, put me on a collision course with pain and disappointment.

But before I could learn to defeat this insecurity and turn "wounds into wisdom", there were more wounds yet to be had....

The Road-Less Battle

Is it really morning? Wow, that seemed fast. My eyes ache as I force them open. The clock says 6:35 a.m. I'm exhausted and I don't FEEL like getting up. I would love to just let my eyes rest for another...hour... or two. 
Then the self talk begins. "But...you love waking up early" and "What about your commitment to go running every morning before breakfast?" Mmmmm. Breakfast. My stomach starts to growl.
Great.
The battle of 'will vs. body' has begun. The wisdom of the ages starts echoing in my ears. "First we make choices. Then our choices make us." How many times have I let my body "win" as an excuse because I was "too tired, too hungry, too busy etc?"
Not today sister. Today is a NEW day. A fresh start. Each decision  that comes my way is my choice. Last month I succeeded in getting up early everyday. I nourished my body with clean, healthy foods. I have health goals to become the best me possible... And now, because my eyes hurt I am going to allow a little tiredness to break the streak?
Just then my body pipes up again and whimpers "but think about it Leanna...you need your rest and it's so comfortable in here...and you've been running around all week at the inaugural Utah Comicon. You had a 13 hour drive back to LA yesterday!! You deserve it."
Agh! Hush!!
"My will is stronger than my body. My will is stronger than my body. My will is stronger than my body!" I repeat out loud. Man, if someone was watching this self talk, they might just think I was crazy! 
Maybe I am crazy.
I remind myself of the greater goal that I am working towards. What am I choosing? Weakness or greatness? Greatness does not care whether I am tired, hungry, male or female, what race I am, what religion I claim, or if I ever achieve it for that matter. The ONLY thing that matters right now is having the faith that it will happen, and the commitment of following through. Even when the feeling that I initially had when I made the commitment is gone...(and let me tell you, at this very moment.... it's gone!)
My inner, deeper, and higher thought continues...Be willing to be uncomfortable, and the payoff is greater than the price paid up front. I glance at my phone and the quote of the day is from Blaise Pascal which says "Mans greatness lies in the power of his thought."
OKAY! I AM COMMITTED!! Go figure that would be the quote of the day! Thanks Blaise. :)

And with that my legs swing out of bed. I did it. I put on my tennies and put my hair in a pony tail. I step outside and breathe in the fresh, morning air.
It's invigorating.
To achieve greatness, one must push through. Never quit. Or... like Dori from Finding Nemo puts it-- "just keep swimming...just keep swimming..." I place one foot in front of the other and am reminded again that if it is meant to be, it's up to me and my committed action.
Bring it on world cause here I come!

Practice Makes Perfect?

It's been a while, I know. Life is an ever flow of events and I sometimes find myself caught up in the excitement of it all. Needless to say, (by the lack of my posts) blogging has been about the last thing on my mind lately. Imagine my surprise then, as I was in the middle of enjoying my breakfast, an interesting thought popped into my brain, and my laptop chirped at me simultaneously, as if telling me I had to blog about it. So here I am--about to reveal some of the ever flowing thoughts that rattle around in my brain!
The question of the morning is: If practice makes perfect, or at the very least makes one better, does this apply to everything we do? Let's see, what are some of the "practices" we as humans do on a regular basis? Hmmm. Breathing, eating, sleeping, thinking, talking...? These activities maybe aren't viewed as "practice" because it has nothing to do with playing a sport or musical instrument, but, isn't anything we do regularly a form of practice?
The questions begin to snowball...
If thinking is practicing, what reoccuring thoughts are happening in my brain? Am I thinking positively or negatively? 
My heartbeat picks up pace as if I were a convict getting ready to be sentenced. Oh, I know I have lots of thoughts that are happy, upbeat and filled with life, but what about those negative, pesky and downright ugly thoughts like, not being in better shape or not having enough money? When those thoughts occur more than ONE time, (and I definitely plead guilty on this) --then it is ultimately something that I am practicing.
What am I talking most about? Lack? Or Abundance? Am I talking about how happy and grateful I am to have water and food to eat daily? Over 75% of the world does NOT have that privilege.
Or am I talking about what I don't have, repeating a negative story I heard on the news, or gossping? Am I living in love or in fear? Which one am I ultimately practicing more and getting stronger at?
I find all of these questions to be very sobering, if I take a good honest look at myself. Am I subject to having these thoughts control my life? Hell no!

The good news is, I remind myself, we have a choice in the matter. Always. A choice to become aware of what is happening in our brains, and to actively replace bad thoughts with good ones. Comforting isn't it? Kind of like this hot cup of joe. 
The more we practice awareness, the stronger we will become. And the stronger we become, the closer we are to that gold medal of abundance. That my friend, is something amazing to think about!
Now, back to my coffee...

A Prayer of Healing

My heart is deeply sorrowful.

For the weeping mothers. The heartbroken fathers.

The pain and anger that is sweeping across a country. 

Another day that the world has been forced to face tragedy.

Again, I ask myself, "Why the little children? Why the innocent?"

As tears stream down my face, my afflicted heart hears only one answer. An answer in the form of another question:

"What can I do to to bring healing to hearts that are broken? Hearts that are lost? Hearts that have been hardened, and now seem to hold no value for life?" 

Is it even possible? My soul is met with a confirmation that it is. If one person can affect so many in a heartless and despicable way, what could many hearts do if united in spreading love and healing?

Being fearful paralyzes the mind. It is the opposite of love.

The truth is, as hard as it may be to forgive -- not doing so empowers the hate, and staying angry stimulates the poison that has already contaminated too many. 

Today is a new day. 

A day that you and I have a beating heart, breath, life. 

A light, with the ability to shine in the darkness. 

A power to spread love. 

This is my desire. and my commitment: 

To unite and create a circle of love that spreads further than my hands alone can reach. 

A prayer that is shared, filled with healing and forgiveness, touching more than my eyes can see. 

Please join me in spreading this love. There is great power in many hearts united.

"Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything."

Together let's pray, standing united, holding hands in Spirit, for ALL whom we cherish and hold most dear, as well as for those whom we may never meet... 

TODAY IS A NEW DAY. A MIRACLE WITHIN ITSELF. A GIFT.

LIFE IN WHICH I HAVE THE ABILITY TO LOVE MERELY BY SPEAKING IT INTO EXISTENCE.

WITH THIS POWER, I HUMBLY ASK THAT HEALING WOULD TOUCH ALL THOSE WHO ARE HURTING THIS DAY.

LET THE ARMS OF LOVE BE WRAPPED AROUND THEM, FILLING THEM WITH COMFORT.

ALLOW ME TO SOW LOVE AS I LIVE THIS DAY,

BY PLANTING FAITH AND HOPE WHERE THERE GROWS DOUBT AND DESPAIR.

MAY THIS BE A SPARK THAT IGNITES FORGIVENESS; 

FOR IN THIS LOVE LIES THE POWER THAT CAN HEAL ALL WOUNDS.

LET ME BE AN INSTRUMENT OF PEACE AS I LIVE THIS DAY.

MAY WE COME TOGETHER AS ONE WITH LOVE AND BE A GREATER FORCE, DEFEATING HATRED AND HARDENED HEARTS.

FOR IT IS WITHIN THE SMALLEST GESTURE, THAT LOVE CAN BE FELT,

AND EVEN GREATER STILL, LOVE HAS NO BOUNDARIES.

WITH THIS KNOWLEDGE, LET US MOVE FORWARD, AND CREATE A FORCE OF LOVE THE WORLD HAS NEVER SEEN.

Test of Faith

There are seasons in life that seem to be more challenging than others. Times where it feels more difficult to have faith--and believe that it is all going to "pan out." And just when you think you've reached your limit, and you can handle no more, life dishes out something else. 
It is also in these moments, when our strength, character, determination and faith are truly put to the test. And man oh' man, has it been one of those times for me lately!

It's 5:45am. My alarm has just gone off. I wake up with the dominant thought I've had on my mind all week: Butters.  My favorite dog in the world went missing exactly one week ago today. Questions and thoughts of his whereabouts continue to plunk themselves into my mind. 
Why hasn't anyone called yet? He had his collar on him! Is someone trying to steal him?
I refocus and look at the clock. It's twenty minutes until my train leaves, and Amtrak is a punctual beast. I grab my backpack and hurry out of the house.
Faith. Trust. Uh-huh.
Faith has been playing a good game of hide and seek with me for the last seven days...Faith being the one doing the hiding. And shortly after I hunt Faith down and find her, she seems to want to play the game all over again.

I run up four flights of stairs at the train station, and barely make it on board. Talk about a great way to get your heart pumping in the morning! I take a seat and look out the window. A spectacular sunrise greets me and reminds me that today is a new day, a blessing, a gift. It seems to point out that each day presents itself with two different handles to clutch on to. We can either grab the handle of anxiety or hold on to the handle of faith. 
I open my iphone and read a few notes I jotted down this past week by Saint Augustine, Gandi and Khalil Gibran. 

• "Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe."-Saint Augustine
• "If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time and a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm." -Mahatma Gandi
• "Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens." -Khalil Gibran

How comforting it is to know that in moments when I don't have the inspiration or strength, I can always find someone who does.
I breathe in deeply and am comforted. When we let faith shape our lives, worry has no stronghold. 

It's an understatement for me to say that I do not like that my favorite pooch is missing. Emotions have run deep in me this week. And, after printing and posting fliers, putting adds on Craigslist, and searching through suburbia, fields and ditches, the only thing I can do now is to choose faith. I am in charge of my attitude. A Greater Power is in charge of the rest.  
Although my prayers of finding this special dog are still strong, I have felt a shift happen as I re-discover my faith and find my "attitude of gratitude." I am reminded of the many beautiful gifts I have been given in life (even two years of love and joy with a wonderful pup).  A change is in motion. From a focus on what I temporarily do not possess, my prayers are now directed towards being responsible of living a life worthy of that which I already have. 

Coincidence??

Sluggish mornings are almost a guarantee after not sleeping well the night before. I drag myself downstairs to make breakfast and start my day off with some reading. I have this strong feeling that today should be spent in prayer, study and meditation. Hmm. Okay. Well, I have a lot to do today, so let's get this party started. 

I wake up my Nook. I envy how it can wake up so easily with just the swipe of a button.
The Power of Intention, by Wayne Dyer pops on the screen where I had left off yesterday. I drink each word in slowly.
I take out my Life Journal--a book where I keep thoughts and notes that I have come across over the years. Its leathery smell fills the air as I open it, and I read what I have written on the cover page: 
"A journey of a thousand miles, begins with a single step."
Pondering this beautiful quote, I flip to a blank page and begin to take a few notes. As I jot away tidbits that I feel apply to my life right now, all of a sudden, my Nook starts "acting up" and on its own, decides to flip to the previous page. I grab it disapprovingly, turning back to the page where I was before, and set it back down on the table to finish my note taking.
Then, without warning, it does it again. What in the world is going on here?! It's still to early for problems!  My Nook is obviously not listening. 

Then a third time it revolts-- but this time, almost audibly says,
"Leanna! You are missing something on the previous page!" 

I stare blankly in my frustration and then say out LOUD to my empty dining room, "Okay already--I can take a hint! Let me at least finish what I'm writing and then I'll go back and reread that page!"
Then nothing.
I take my time finishing my notes, just to see if it will turn back on its own a fourth time...but the Universe had heard me, and so it patiently waited for me to manually turn back on my own.
I finally turn the page and as I begin to reread it, the word INTENT really sticks out to me. A word I'm familiar with, but at this moment, feel the need to look up its definition.

Intent or Intention 

-something that is intended; purpose; design

-an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result

The next sentence that catches my attention on the page is that "in mathematics, two angles that are said to coincide, fit together perfectly. The word coincidence then does not describe luck or mistakes. It describes that which fits together perfectly." As I ponder this thought, my Nook then does something else on its own. It highlights a particular part of a sentence on the page! Tentatively, I begin to read what I had completely overlooked the first time! (I have underlined the part that was highlighted.) 

"When life appears to be working against you, when your luck is down, when supposedly the wrong people show up, or when you slip up and return to old, self defeating habits, recognize the signs that you're out of harmony with intention." 

Whoa.
I read on. The next paragraph stuns me even more. The same scriptural verse that I read the night prior Mark 11:24, just so happened to be the next paragraph that was in the book! My eyes fill with water in unbelief. I flip back open my Life Journal to write this down and as I do, I find there is only one thing written on the top of the page--that I had written there months ago. The SAME exact verse!!
"AND ALL THINGS, WHATSOEVER YOU SHALL ASK IN PRAYER, BELIEVING, YOU SHALL RECEIVE."
A tingly feeling passes through my body. 

Coincidence?? Maybe. Just maybe.

The Power of Intention By Dyer, Wayne W. (Google Affiliate Ad)